DB says, asks no questions. My own experience says, ask the questions you want to ask. In the name of DB'ing I didn't ask Joe any questions about the supposedly EA he was having, and it had already turned into a PA. Later, he said my not asking had made it easier for him to move into a PA, and that he was pleasantly surprised I hadn't asked. You don't have to ask in a mean way, just with compassion and honesty. That's my take. But only you will decide what to do.
