I've been catching up on other people's journeys. Even being away from here a few months and you do forget the ideas behind DB. I gave up hope of saving my marriage but I would like to have my friend back. I've known H since I was 13. Anyway, after reading posts here I think I gained some insight into what H was doing. Remembering that they are only getting some of their needs met from OW, I think he was trying to add more needs by incorporating our children into their lives. "Playing family" so to speak? Not that this makes me like it any more than I did but I can see it. Maybe I'm wrong, but now that the kids and I have moved away that hole in his new life is getting more obvious? I talked to my counsellor after this meeting happened & he also thinks its a way for OW to try and have H bond with her more so he won't move. I also think that OW is in midlife crisis too.
Me-36 H-37 D11 S8 S6 M9 T19 ILYNILWY 11/10 discover EA 02/11 discover EA is really PA/H moved out 03/11 H wants to go to counselling,piecing 12/11 Find out still OW(plural), I'm officially done/detached 04/12
