This thread has struck a cord with me, especially reading about hos they can seem friendly and yet don't want a R. My H confuses me. He can be such good friends with me, I start to think maybe he's coming round. Then he'll say something that make me think, or maybe not!!!
The week before he told me he wanted a divorce, He was coming round here a lot and making himself at home. On the Wednesday he texted me in the morning and asked if he could be cheeky and have a bath as he's only got a shower at his place. I said he could and whilst he was having a bath I made us both lunch and then we sat down to watch some tv together. I was feeling happier than I had been since he left and felt very hopeful. I knew it wasn't going to bw an over night R, but at least I thought it was a step in the right direction.
The following week, he told me he was going to see a solicitor to start filing for D. You can imagine how devastated I was!! It was like an alien had abducted him the way he was talking to me.
The next time he asked for a bath, I said no. He also asked to borrow some money and I've said he had a cheek after filing for D and then expecting me to loan him some money and use my hot water! I had a right rant at him that day!
I often wonder if it's a MLC that he's going through. He did say that he was a 25 year old that's stuck in a 47 year old's body which screams MLC at me!
Well anyway, I have big plans now about how I'm going to redesign this house smile It will make him harder to come back as he will feel that he has been pushed out, but what else can I do? I was going to consult him about the changes, but now I've decided I'm just going to do it smile

H47 me48
T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!