I know you don't want me to get hurt. Hey, me neither lol!
And it would hurt me if he did the old stiff as a board act. But at least I know this could happen.
As of right now, I plan on giving him a hug. If he gets weird tomorrow or slips into alien mode, I will go to Plan B - no hug!
He's upstairs packing now. I'm outside with the boys.
To add into the mix, Today I booked our family vacation with some input from H. He seemed genuinely interested, and was even looking up restaurants in that area that he saw on Food Network. We will be going mid-July.
It's going to be interesting, all of it. I've actually had a pretty good PMA today, feel that acceptance of trip washing over me. Still sad, but focusing on all the good things.
Firing up that blender... Who's up for a cold beverage?
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Tvs, I have been following your thread for quite a while now and thought I'd post my experience with my h's first trip to visit the ow. I felt much like you probably feel he packs his suitcase. I couldn't be in the house and just wanted the trip to fall through in one way or another. I hoped for bad weather a cancelled flight, ow not being there when he got there, a fight that would bring him back home and on and on.
When he returned he told me that he had several panic attacks (he should have gotten a clue from that but didn't) for which the ow him Advil! LOL He told me that I would have known what to do. As much as I hated that he went and that he stayed the entire time, I knew even then that there was nothing that I could do to stop him. Just know that it will more than likely be very awkward for him in many ways.
You are well grounded and I know you'll do just fine while he's away. The others are all giving you good advice. Keep yourself busy with whatever distracts you from thinking about him.
As for the hug. As long as you're prepared for however he might react, then go for it, girl! He might surprise you!
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama
I have to admit reading thru the posts, I laughed so hard that my eyes were watering. All you gals (not meant to be derogatory) have such a great sense of humor. I really needed the laugh too!
Your determination to not just take care of yourself and family, but to see this all thru while holding your head up high and taking it on the chin here and there is truly a fantastic motivation for others.
I don't want to get to positive and jinx it all, but sounds like your SO is about to crack.
Keep up with the positive outlook on life. Good luck
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
