Magic, Keep the focus on you and you alone. Right now, you need to do the work on you for you.
When and if he can focus on what he had, he will begin to sense you withdrawing from him and if he's focused enough he will see you getting on w/your life w/o him in it and actually seeing you having fun and enjoying YOUR life. He will notice more if you as you continue to grow, i.e., become more self assured, independent and not that scared little mouse who is afraid to take any steps w/o checking w/him. It will take many months before him to realize that the changes that you are making for YOU, not to get him back, are permanent. There is absolutely no way to speed up the process of him waking up. His journey is much slower than the one you are on.
So, did you contact your counselor for a meet up? Have you gotten your appointment with a lawyer yet? KML gave you good advice on your other thread. You need to find out what your options are before you begin having talks w/him about the finances, etc. Please do not agree to anything he says about your end of the deal until you've sought out legal advice.
If you haven't made those appointment, please do so today. No more excuses...you've got to take care of yourself in all areas of your life. Leave him in God's hands.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
