I no longer want to bend to her will. I want to stand up and fight rather than keep my mouth shut and keep the peace. I need to get things in order so that I do not loose the two most important things to me. I am going to continue to post on here because its a way for me to get my thoughts out. I hope all those that do happen to read my thread will not get discouraged but know that I am fighting for what I know is right. I am hoping that I can get someone to post advice and encouragement. The feelings that are going through me right now are beyond confusing.

Am I kowtowing to my wife if I decided to move closer during the D so that I will be able to see my children? I am not weak, I will not let her push me down. I will not give my children up.


Me 32
W 30
Married 11
D10, S6
BD#1 January of 09
OM#1 2005
OM#2 Dec 08
OM#3 March/April of 09
Back together August 09
OM#4 May 13
W moves out June 2013
BD#2 June 21 2013
Filed July 2013
D final in Oct