I completely agree that this is not how friends text, especially given the time. These are exactly the types of flirty texts my H has been sending me. The man DOES NOT just want to be my friend.
I know I have posted my opinion on male female friendships while married. You are separated, so you can do what you want. But, you say you don't want to have an EA or PA...but you are already beginning an EA IMO. If a man texted me the above at 12:30 at night, I'd respond "This is inappropriate, I'm only looking for a friend" Because if all I wanted was a friend, let's face it...my girlfriend wouldn't text me that. I do have male friends. The friendships have changed since becoming married. I don't discuss my marriage or problems with my H with them. We don't text or talk on the phone for hours, its typically a how ya doing, lets get together with the kids, type thing. We ususally just hang out with our wives, husband, girlfriends, kids.
Trust me, even 33 weeks pregnant, I get flirted with. It feels good. It does. A mutal friend of ours knew my H and I were separated. He is an attractive single dad and our sons are friends and the same age. He started calling about more playdates, and has always been really flirty with me. I know he was just trying to be there, but I was really enjoying the attention, so I told him I needed to back off. I need to make me feel good, plus I'm human and didn't need to complicate anything for myself.
Just really get honest with yourself. Whatever you decided is right for you, is.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
