Thanks AloneStander. It's good to see to small signs that what I am doing is working. I was starting to feel like there was no hope and i was almost ready to give up. Thank goodness for this forum... and thanks for the advice everyone. For now i am going to continue to let him be the one to initiate any affection.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.