Sigh...I have to say I'm just about done feeling stuff (JK) .
So today we had realtor over to walk through house to finally get it put on market. Seemed to be going well at first until I noticed my D7 get quiet and kind of pull away. When we all went upstairs to look around D7 went into her room and shut her door. W, oblivious as always, thought she was just getting it picked up. I slid in there because it didn't seem right and D7 started crying as soon as she saw me walk in. I shut the door and just held her. She said she didn't want to move away and didn't want someone else having her room. I told them to give us a few minutes to pick it up and just stood there hugging her. When she stopped crying I asked her what it was that was really bothering her because she seemed excited for a new house. I asked the question to allow her to talk about it. She said she doesn't want to sell the house because it's where all her family memories are and they'll be gone when we move. I explained to her that she'll always have the memories we had here together, reminded her of some memories she has that didn't occur at the house, and told her she'll get new memories that can be even better. She made me promise this then wiped her face, gave me a huge hug and told me she loved me, then left the room and told them they could take pics of her room. It took EVERYTHING I had to not break down when I was in there alone. How is a 7 year old mature enough to even have these thoughts???
On one side it completely ripped my heart out to see her in pain while on the other side it felt good to be able to comfort her and show her strength and hope for our future.
Even with that heartache I'm still doing better than last several days. Had killer workout at lunch which usually helps me get my mind straight. Also felt good to show D7 unflinching strength and seeing the relief in her face made me feel like I'll get them through this.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
In college, I had a course in Latin, and one day the word "divorce" came up. I always figured it came from some root that meant "divide." In truth, it comes from "divertere," which means "to divert." I believe that. All divorce does is divert you, taking you away from everything you thought you knew and everything you thought you wanted and steering you into all kinds of other stuff.
Mitch Albom
You are a good man Spartan...
And you have come a long way, proud to know you....
Thanks a ton Mach. I owe you (and these boards) more than words can explain.
No novel from me today...
W agreed to all counter proposal stuff this AM and judge granted the D. Won't lie, a little in shock and feeling the emotions of the day. Gonna let myself feel it all today then start the next chapter of my life.
I'll post about awesome weekend D7 and I had later on.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
I always thought you were months behind me, but you must be the competitive sort...only 6 days behind at this point
Originally Posted By: Spartan
Gonna let myself feel it all today then start the next chapter of my life.
Seriously, I think that's a great way to look at the day. Day 1 is tough...but on Day 2, pick yourself up, knock off the dust, and start moving forward.
I'll also share with you something I told my W during our 3 hour lunch on D day. "Divorce is just a piece of paper. Where our relationship goes from here is totally up to us." D doesn't mean there's no hope, it's just a new chapter.
Thinking of you today ... You seem to have a very healthy attitude towards this reality. I admire that a lot. Take care of yourself.
We are here for you
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
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. Deleting history now 