Do I continue to play like we are working on us, not knowing if I am plan B, just to be terribly hurt again?
Don't play like you are working on the M because your W isn't. Don't confuse her current pursuit behavior with that, she's just having some second-guessing about moving out so she's engaging in some cake-eating. She may even be doing it to "remind" herself of why she left. WAS's can turn on a dime, they can suddenly start pursuing and then just stop again like a switch is flipped and say "oh yeah, doing this just reminded me of why it's over." My W did it in January and Crimson's W just recently did thit after having moved back in with him for 3 months.
Originally Posted By: Grizz
Or, do I back off, losing time with the kids and her, and looking like I am pouting or upset just in case I am plan B?
You don't do this either. You GAL! Do things WITHOUT her. Don't fill her in on all your activities, you are SEPARATED now. Embrace that, do some things for yourself for a change. Don't pout around her, show her PMA, but also show her distraction. Show her that you've got other things going on in your life and you're not available to her all the time. Like Sailing said, turn down an offer now and then. Tell her you've got another commitment and can't make it. If she asks questions about your commitment be vague. You need to give her time and space, but you need to take it for yourself too. Remember what I told you about my journey in separation and the growth it spurred in me. See this as an opportunity. Quit being so damned concerned about what her reaction is to every little thing you do or say. Make this about YOU
