Originally Posted By: Rockwallaby
A big lesson for me from this is about self worth and recognising that I am worthy of being happy and loved. I think past experiences have made this difficult for me so far and most dialogue I have with you seems to be centred around reminding me of what a horrible person I am. I have to try very hard to not let your words have a damaging impact on me and remember that I am a nice person and I have a lot of love and compassion to share.


Read the bolded part above, what have you been telling her to make her feel this way? Whatever it is, STOP that right away. Whenever you talk to her it should be 100% light and fluffy talk. Do not initiate any talk about M, your R or D. If she initiates, then you stay quiet and validate. Treat her like you would a friendly neighbor when you communicate with her.


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57