Thanks adinva. I will try not to dwell on my suspicious/jealous thought when they come up. I just see it happens so often, I do not want to be the naive wife with her head in the sand.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.