Portia I do think the length of the relationship has something to do with it, and our age.
I am in acceptance, and would not entertain the thought of a relationship with the man my xh currently is. I still do not believe he is his true self, but still in emotional crisis mode. Am I 'done' hmmmmmmm probably never if I am honest, but I am OK with that. It is a bit like being a widow now. They are gone, but not forgotten and still fondly thought of.
Others think differently about MLC and have had different experiences. In general (huge generalization coming up) I find that women experience their spouses MLC somewhat differently from men at least in how they express it. Neither approach is right or wrong, they just seem different.
