odga, I posted to you on my thread, but I'll try to repeat it here.
I know what your W has opened up to you about is NOT what you wanted to here. But the fact that she HAS opened up to you brings your new R to a whole new level. She felt compelled to tell you about the OG... why? I would think the only reason why is because she wanted to see how you felt about it, if you would be able to accept her and get past it so you can CONTINUE to build your R... Hang in there. Remember, your sitch hasn't really changed, just your perception of the sitch... remember to act as if everything is AWESOME, cause it is...
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.