It's okay to let it all out-- the only way is THROUGH the pain. Sorry, but it's true. I was where you are now, but I'm not any more...you won't be in this stage forever.

And, it's okay to be vulnerable in front of your children (how old are they?) but try to continue to be private whenever you can. Their reaction to the situation will be very much how YOU are reacting. I've learned this first-hand, the hard way!

You ARE stronger than you think, kelela. Believe me, you are.. and over time you will learn this.

Take care of you--one day/one hour/one minute sometimes at a time. And you ARE allowed to use TECHNOLOGY or whatever you need to distract your children when you need time to yourself!

Old rules don't apply as they did before. If you don't put yourself as a priority you cannot be "good" for them--know what I mean?? Hang in there!

M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.