OK folks - I need some advice on something - Been spending all morning cleaning up my home office and I can now walk to my computer directly without going through a small path of stuff. Been thinking as I worked -
When C dropped the bomb and ever since she has said she wants us to stay friends. Right after the bomb and just before D I asked her point blank if there was someone else. Without hesitation she said NO. I now know that that was a lie. Until now I have always believed anything she said to me as the total truth.
Since I found out about the OM, I have told her that my goal (to get back together) is still the same. She said she just wanted to be honest with me. and that we were making baby steps (but did not say where the baby steps were heading)
Anyway - I believe that any friendship should be based on honesty. She said she wanted to be honest with me, but that I know she has lied to me in the past, how can I believe what she said, or what she will say in the future?
I know that none of my friends here can answer that question - my question here is “do I discuss this w/ C?” After all if she wants us to be friends then she needs to know that the threshold issue in a friendship is trust and that she needs to rebuild my trust in her.
As to when I believe it has been rebuilt??? I guess I will know when it happens - and that future trust may actually be misplaced. But that is the nature of trust, isn’t it?
