Dawn Marie, I may be new to all this, but I do know that you are hurting... When you find yourself in these position you do what you have to do to protect yourself. You have shut off your feelings for a man who has hurt you soooo badly, to stop the hurting. When things change, so will your feelings.
Also, how can a crazy man create a deep, emotional tie with someone? they may think they can, but they think many things... most of which make no sense at all. Don't get caught up in his fantasy - its built on alien soil.
I never though I would be able to look at this situation in the way I am currently. Having a C who listens and understands the illness behind the MLC has helped me enormously, even if it just means that I get to vent at him instead of partner!
