PON, I think as far as doing something really different, following Bond's advice "to the T" would certainly be doings something completely different for you. As things progress, you will figure out what is really you and what isn't you, as far as behaviours go.
So, when your W is disrespectful to you, tell her that you will not be disrespected.
When your W threatens you with D, ask her when she will be doing so and if she does not, file yourself.
When your W tells you to leave, tell her that you are staying and that SHE should leave.
I think doing so would certainly see a change in your sitch.
