Well - I just got back from C - we went out to eat - had a great meal and good conversation - went back home and I helped her fix the maping on her home network and changed a phone around - moved a 4line phone from upstairs to downstairs and a two line from down back up - we then went upstairs and talked to sis and niece who had come over for a few then after they left we chit chatted for a few - She told me that I should take our puppy home some as she wanted my cat and the puppy stay connected. after a few minutes we had a talk about last weekend.
Last weekend she called me and told me that I could do much better than her and that I should move on. Since she was crying and seemed to have had a few too many margariats - I asked her what had brought this on and she said that she had had sex with some one else and she knew that I would never forgive her. I told her that this is something that we should talk about together and not on the phone - would it be ok for me to come over. she was supprised that I still wanted to see her after what she told me.
I went over and got there about 40 minutes later and could not find her in the house. I did notice the back deck door open and went on the deck and noticed that she was down on the patio in the hot tub. When went down the stairs and over to the hot tub I noticed a bottle of Tequila on the hot tub lid. The first thing I heard her say was "help me". I noticed that she was very limp, could not stand up and was very incoherent. I tried to get her out but she was not able to help me and I could not lift her out myself. She kept slipping under the water and I even crawled into the tub with my clothes on to get her out. I finally realized that I had to get more help and called 911 and her sis after what seemed like an eternity help arrived and we were able to get her out. She was very embarrased about the whole thing and she has later said that she had not intended to go what she did but had just done a very stupid thing. Said she was very thankful that I was there and that she was alive today because of me.
I hate to think that if I had been a few minutes later or had an accident on the way over or not even gone over then she would not be with us today. Lots of boose and solo hot tubing don't mix and can be deadly. She would have drowned, or had a heat stroke as the hot water was raising her body temp to a dangerous level. EMTs and her sis (the nurse) checked her out and she was ok - just drunk (which is very very unlike her)
I stayed with her Sunday night, all day Monday and Monday night to make sure she was ok.
Well now that you know some of the background --- tonight we started talking about her telling me that she had had sex with someone else it seems that there was not only a OM, but a full blown PR that started before the D and is still ongoing. However she says that she still cares for me and loves me. As for going with me to Boston at the end of April - she said that part of her desperately wants to go and part of her still needs to make a decision.
It was getting late and she wanted me to stay the night (albeit in the guest room) I almost stayed. In fact she had already gotten ready for bed and had taken a sleeping pill and gone to bed - I just left and came home -- did not even say bye.
She told me earlier that her new meds should make her start feeling better in a few weeks and the AD that I just started may start to help me in a week or two also so I will just chill for now - be a friend.
