Update: She told me she wanted a divorce this weekend. I of course crashed and burned. I couldn't do much but just sit there and ask why? why? why? Rather than shut my mouth. I asked her for more time, but I am thinking that it was pointless. I don't know what to do other than just back away.
That is EXACTLY what you should do. Don't ask her about D, don't pressure her, don't even call or text her about anything. It's OK to reply to her, but don't initiate. She might file, but then she might not. You never know with WAS's. I've read many sitches where a WAS insisted they would be filing ASAP and then months later still hadn't. My W told me about 6 weeks ago that she was going to file after the kids got out of school. I simply told her to let me know what I needed to sign and I haven't said a word to her about it since. The kids got out of school 3 weeks ago and she still hasn't filed. Silence is the best policy.
But do consult a lawyer. Since your W has one, you should look into one as well just to make sure you're protecting yourself.
