Now 2+ yrs time to get off this limbo

[newman7977]

What about you, ever had these thoughts?

I think we all have those thoughts. But D rarely brings the closure people expect it to. Ask yourself what you are hoping to gain with a D, then ask yourself whether those goals really will be accomplished with a D. And spend a LOT of time contemplating that. For example, people often think "I just want this to be over, I don't want to hurt anymore." But D isn't a magic bullet that erases pain, often it makes the hurt worse instead of better.

Thanks AS. I can't shake it up. I'm still determined, determined to stop the cycle. It's no magic bullet and I kno it's gonna hurt. But it's time to put a stop in this abuse. Her deception, lies, disrespect has to stop. Time to get me out of the picture. It's been 2 yrs, she needs to look at herself just like I did...and if she choose to stay in the M I'm here for her ready to work.

I'm planning as we speak, sell the house get a condo for myself and the kids. I'm thinking Aug, that's our 19th anniversary. The woman I M died 2 yrs ago. This woman I'm with right now doesn't care for my feelings. She chose to hurt her family for a cost of a fantasy. I know she's fogged up. But even MWD said you can't torture yourself forever. I have no more respect for my W. is it bad? But at the moment that's how I feel. All these I'm feeling right now. Maybe it will change.

Newman