Been awhile..

[Jeack]

That's gonna be tough considering her time seems to be consumed with OM

Don't assume everything is perfect with OM. It never is. That is why you need to busy yourself making -you- into the spouse only a fool would leave, because when she starts getting tired of OM's quirks you want her to look back and see you as the better option. Have you read Married Man Sex Life Primer? He makes an interesting point in it, you actually have a leg up on the competition because your W already chose you once. So there was something appealing and attractive to her about you. And it's still there, so capitalize on it, enhance it, make yourself that guy that she was originally attracted to.

No haven't read that book. Sounds like a trip to Barnes and noble later. I agree with what your saying, but at the same time OM was the man she was with and left to be with me. So it may be a even playing field. My W has never not been in a R she justs runs from man to man.

[Jeack]

Welp the paperwork should be done by Friday. Screwed up and went into panic mode here's the text convo

W:Karen(lawyer) will have everything done by the end of the week

M:Ok. And when can I get the house keys back? And have you came across any of my things at your moms. Also if you don't want the wedding pictures ill take them. Guess I can assume my questions will go unanswered. This just all [censored]

W:Why do you always do this when we get along

M:I was just hoping you would answer it to help me out as a friend at least. I'm not trying to argue with you. And I would like to think that you know I don't want any parts of this divorce. But there's nothing I can do.

W: it's not healthy. stop

M:Your right there is nothing healthy about this situation. Thankfully for you, you weren't the rejected one and you were able to find someone to fill my spot. Ill just make my own assumptions. I'm not trying to be mean. I was just hoping you could be honest with me one last time. Let me know about the house keys and the other things when u have time.

M: i'm not trying to be mean. I'm just still having a hard time without you and it [censored] big time. Your not in my shoes, you've found happiness. And I still miss you and go home to empty house that I thought we were going to build a life in. I just really hope you never have to go thru this and be on the opposite side of the fence.

M:Can u at least let me know about the keys and if u found any of my things at your house?

[cbtdad]

Wow Jeack! Reading that text convo let me see exactly what I was doing wrong months ago. You've got to keep it short. You can have all those feelings you just can't let W see them at this moment. It is a huge turnoff. Once I realized this and really started to do it is when W says she starting noticing changes

[Jeack]

Thanks C, Just reality kicking in. Paperwork will be done by Friday. Then we sign off on the D. I've already decided that I wouldn't try to hold it up especially since she's still with OM. Like I texted her I don't want any parts of this but not my decision

[Jeack]

Well she won't even respond to my texts now. This is such a crappy situation. Never thought it would have gone this far. But I guess most of us think this way.

[MrBond]

What do you expect her to text back?

[Jeack]

I at least wanted to know about if I had things at her moms house and getting my house keys back.

Guess I was just trying to keep communication going with her, then I pushed her FAR away with what I wrote her.

Guess I just need to accept she's happier with OM and move on. Now She's even posting pics of her and him on her FB.

[Jeack]

So I'm trying to figure out how to communicate with her moving forward. I'm at the point of just telling her that if she wants to be with OM that's on her but I don't care to be friends and leave it at that?. And live my life!

[cbtdad]

No reason to tell her that. Just live your life and move forward

[sayitaintso]

Let her go Jeack.

Start to rebuild your life the way you want to.

And de-friend and block her on your FB.

Take your time to grieve, it will get better.