Wow Jeack! Reading that text convo let me see exactly what I was doing wrong months ago. You've got to keep it short. You can have all those feelings you just can't let W see them at this moment. It is a huge turnoff. Once I realized this and really started to do it is when W says she starting noticing changes
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it