yes, I'm not contacting her, but when she called I did speak to her. But I broke off the telephone conversation after about 10-15 minutes telling her that I had to put the girls to sleep (actually true). Today she didn't call.
I agree about not telling her, so no emails. She did email me because she visited her friend that is studying medicine and my lamented to me that it is too late for her to be a doctor. She told me she regrets that he didn't go to medical school 20 years ago. She said she sees her options as "somehow get $250k and go to medical school and work like mad for 10-12 years, or stick with current job and have lots of hobbies to distract her."
I don't think she can be happy with our marriage until she is happy with herself and I wonder if that will ever come.
