Crimson.....Are we broken or just bent?

[25yearsmlc]

if she brings it up and acts as if it's all up to you

you say you assumed it was "over" since you two are over.

Why would you assume otherwise? (NOT Based on how she behaves or what she says...)

No she does "get to have a baby" without a life partner if that man is YOU.

You're not that type of guy.

OR, are you? I'm serious. Think outside the box.

You love your son. You'd love the next child too. Two is fun and they would have each other for life.

Not to be morbid but I have now known 4 women to lose children. Two lost daughters and two lost sons.

Last week, my d24's bff and college roomate was killed in a freak accident. Not her fault. She did nothing wrong or careless, no alcohol, no speeding, etc. Someone else was careless and now she's GONE! Ejected from a car and the earth. She has a little sister, 17.

I know for a fact that the only reason her mom gets out of bed every day, is to check on her other d.
I concede openly that a PART of why we had another child was the "heir and a spare" theory. We have three but the 2nd one was planned...

Can't put all your eggs in one basket. You get so in love with that child, so many hopes attach to them, that if something happens, you fear the worst for you. It's like a survival instinct...make sense?

Any chance you'd be open to that? Of course you have spoken of how it would mean two CS payments and being torn apart again. But would it be so much harder to leave two children with your xw, than just one? They'd have each other. The demands are greater but they entertain themselves even with a 3 y/difference. Our first two are 3 years apart and played together from the time the d was 3 and s was 5 or 6. And though there is a 12 y diff between our oldest, son and our youngest d, they are close.

They play and talk together a lot.

CRIMSON I am not suggesting this...

Just give it a few minutes thought before rejecting it so you KNOW you have considered all options.

Then if you decide you know you do not want to use the embryo, say nothing for now.

Really. I cannot see an upside to you bringing it up unless you are willing to have a second child with her without strings attached. Not all men would say no to that.

You don't have to. (I admit I kind of feel sorry for that little embryo, what a scrapper). But don't be the one to bring it up. I really think that's a bad idea.