You're using your kids as a crutch. And it seems like you had forgotten that you need to nurture your M more than your children. When your H wanted to be intimate with you, were you angry at him or anything? I get the fact that you were tired and I think you forget that there were probably times that he was too. That sex was probably the only way you two could have communicated on a one on one level that doesn't involve the children.
What do you think would happen if you went to MC like you keep telling him to do? Would that actually change YOUR habits? Would you start initiating sex more? What changes would YOU make?
He doesn't want to go to MC because that makes it sound like things were all his fault. It won't do any good if you also aren't committed to change.
If you don't read DB you won't get anywhere. I have two young children that my W had left me with when she walked away. I get it that it can be busy. BUT you find the time and make it a priority.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
