It seems to me that during a rough patch, H mentions that things seemed to be going better but he didn't feel any different about you, it's almost like a defense mechanism kicking in. Things go good for a few months but when something bad happens he uses lines like this to protect himself from thinking you might feel the same way.
I also said something similar to my W when she said she wasn't happy. I told her the reason i drank was because i wasn't happy with our M either, when in all reality, i was just saying that to protect myself in some strange way.
I think in that way, men figure they don't have to shoulder as much of the blame for things during the rough times.
Maybe (and you already mentioned this) the biggest issue with the both of you is trust. The two of you can't trust each other enough to accept the fact that things CAN get better instead of things WON'T get better?
Keep fighting, you have what alot of us are only dreaming about right now, and that is you and your spouse are together. You can make this work and give all of us some hope for our future as well.
Good luck!
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
