"I Love you but love her too"....WHAT?

[Notlikingthis]

I had a busy weekend with family. Of course h was MIA for the most part. He stopped in for a few minutes on Friday and was really distracted and down in the dumps. He talked about leaving the job he started just 2 months ago. I suspect he is still having issues with the people he works with and that they are getting as fed up with his behavior as I was before he moved. He said he had just come from an interview at a non-profit organization. I told him that I thought it was great that he was thinking of doing non profit work. Internally I was thinking, MLC confusion, looking for something to make himself feel better.

He also told me that the (gold digging) ow is going to be moving here. She will be here Wednesday. I'm trying to see the positive in that but it's very, very difficult. He acts like it's just the next step in his journey and not a big deal. I didn't react when he told me, at least not outwardly, but inside I was a wreck. After he left, I sat down and made a list of the positives.

1. She will be in his face 24/7 chatting away. (He likes peace, quiet and no drama other than the drama that he creates himself.)

2. She will show her true colors, eventually.

3. He will show his true colors, immediately because of where his mind is.

4. She will be telling him what to do and when to do it. That doesn't work with him and never will.

5. She will be dependent on him for everything. Eventually he won't put up with that. He is still pretty frugal and thrifty with money unless he's spending it on himself.

6. The home that he lives in will not "do" for her. She is use to 5,000+ sq. ft. homes with "lavish" furnishings. He has nice but not lavish furniture and a bed that has seen better days comfort wise.

7. City girl with a need to paint the town and dance the night away. He prefers slower paced when he's not working to balance his high pressure job.

That's just the beginning. Think of those habits that our spouses have. Think of the habits that the ow/om have. Yikes, at his age, he's not changing anything major anytime soon. I suspect they are both in for a rude awakening.

Other than that, I've been busy with my usual activities and will be starting an online course through a local community college next month. I'm looking forward to it. It will force me to stretch my mind a bit which is what I am hoping for. I also thought about taking some ballroom dance classes. I love to dance but without a partner now I miss it. I haven't found one that works with my schedule but I'm determined to find one.

I'll check in again when I get a few minutes. Off and running again now.