Trying to regain what the title says. Some days I think we're getting there, some days I don't.
We get along great, we laugh a lot, she shows me lots of affection, we have a two amazing kids we both adore. We're fairly successful and have the material things-we live in a large beautiful house on a nice street, we drive nice cars etc. I would consider both of us as attractive people. Since BD and W EA a year ago I believe I've 180'd all of her concerns. I've spent a year getting in shape and have physically never looked better. But I'm still a work in progress, I want to continue to make myself a better person, for myself and my family.
My W thinks I'm a great person and a great father. She sees all the changes in me.
Despite all this my W has attraction issues with me.
This never seemed to be a problem pre BD, but since then its our #1 issue.
I'm trying to learn the tools to strengthen our emotional connection. There's many times I wish someone would tell me word for word what to say to my W.
I know I can't change her and can only change myself. I know I need to be patient.
But being in limbo as to whether she will ever be "in to me" again is very hard some days, most days.
I try to keep a PMA, and try to remain strong and confident. But a lot of the time how I'm feeling on the inside is a different story.
M-38 W-32 D7, S4 M-10 BD-May '12 S for 1 month-June '12 Reconcile, Piecing
