Don't want this journey with MLC WAS Cheating H

[beaumont babe]

I am new to this. Have only been DBing for few months. I am talking to phone coach. I just don't feel I can wait the 2-3 years many of you have. I am all about GAL and taking the legal side slow, but I realize H has a LONG HARD journey with OW and himself and I right now I feel I don't want to go on that road. It's too long and negative. I am happy to do DBing steps for myself and my growth and IF something good should come out of it with him, great. But I don't want that to be my motive. I don't want to feel like I am waiting for him to see the light. I am learning more and more about his childhood and family and his personality that make me think he is too messed up for this to be anything less than several years. I feel I am at acceptance and ready to move on with my life. Are there any turnarounds within a year out there? How are you veteran's holding on so long and keeping yourself sane?