Been awhile..

[Jeack]

That's gonna be tough considering her time seems to be consumed with OM

Don't assume everything is perfect with OM. It never is. That is why you need to busy yourself making -you- into the spouse only a fool would leave, because when she starts getting tired of OM's quirks you want her to look back and see you as the better option. Have you read Married Man Sex Life Primer? He makes an interesting point in it, you actually have a leg up on the competition because your W already chose you once. So there was something appealing and attractive to her about you. And it's still there, so capitalize on it, enhance it, make yourself that guy that she was originally attracted to.

No haven't read that book. Sounds like a trip to Barnes and noble later. I agree with what your saying, but at the same time OM was the man she was with and left to be with me. So it may be a even playing field. My W has never not been in a R she justs runs from man to man.