We both agreed that pretending all is fine tomorrow and like nothing happened doesnt seem like a good idea and that also a more drawn out 'getting to know you again' period doesnt seem like a good idea either. Does anyone have any advice on how to play this or experiences?
It seems a little premature, I have my doubts that your W is really on board with reconciling. But you might look into Retrouvaille, if she really is ready then you'll find RetroV to be a transformative experience. Also check into finding a good solutions-based MC.
