Originally Posted By: BKS

-She does not feel the same way as I do about reconciliation.


This tells me you're putting too much R pressure on her. She should be wondering whether you want to R or not. The fact that she knows you want to R means you're talking about it too much.

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-She said that I may have to eventually accept that she does not feel the same way about our M as I do right now "IF" she continues to feel the way she does. I told her that I dont have to accept it and that I wont give up on her and our family. That is my choice.


See above. You're arguing with her feelings, you are invalidating her when you should be validating her. Validating is not agreeing, it is acknowledging. She says she's done and doesn't feel that way about the M? You tell her "I hear you saying you don't feel good about the M anymore, I understand why you feel that way." You do NOT tell her "but I feel different, here is what I want..." Because she DOESN'T CARE what you want. Not right now.

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This recent talk does not give me much hope that she will change her feelings anytime soon, if ever. I know, I know. Its a marathon, not a sprint.


Right, it's a marathon. She loved you once, right? So now she has chosen not to love you. What makes you think she can't change her mind back again?

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