Yesterday was a great day for us. H got back from camping with the kids, seemed like they had a great time. I showed interest, but pulled back a bit, where I normally would have asked tonnes of questions, like who was all there, etc. Then he asked me what I got up to, and I told him, "oh.. just some stuff around the house and then I went out..." and he asked me a few more questions. He is starting to get a bit curious. For the most part, around the house, I focused on playing with the kids, staying happy, and somewhat distancing myself from H. He seemed to be less grumpy and distant.
Then, in the evening after the kids were in bed, I went out to the back deck with a drink, and to do some reading. (and felt I needed time to myself, away from H). Then, he totally surprised me when he got himself a drink and came out to join me on the back deck. I was floored.. he has not followed me anywhere, or seemed interested in hanging out with me for a long time. So, I'm thinking that is a good thing, but not trying to read too much into it.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
