I'm no vet but I will say that the more major life decisions you can avoid right now the better. Buying a house sounds like a huge amount of pressure at a time when things are very fragile. Once again, I'm no expert but if you can find a place to rent even for 6 mo to a year you will be in a much better place to figure out where you'll live long term without scaring him away right now.
^^^ I completely agree with this.
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Also, I find myself counting down the weeks to having this baby and feeling like I just have to have everything figured out before my due date. The truth is this baby won't remember anything about his life until he's 2.5 to 3 years old. That gives you (and me) a solid 3 years to work through our marriage crisis before it will really impact how our kids remember their lives. It takes a lot of pressure off my back knowing that whether H and I work this out or not I can certainly see us being on much better ground in 2 years, either as co parents or husband and wife.
^^^ This is a very wise way to look at things. We often say around here that this is a marathon, not a sprint. People come here looking for quick fixes, but there aren't any. We give our spouses time and space while we work on ourselves. Sometimes they come back, sometimes they don't. But regardless, DB'ing teaches us to be better, stronger, more independent people so we emerge victorious no matter what our spouses choose.
