TV, I'm sorry to come here and read that your h still isn't following through on some of his medical tests and not taking medication. It will only make his life worse by not doing so...but mlcers think that they are young and don't have to worry too much about those illness because they figure they need to live life to the fullest and take whatever may come along. He's only hurting himself and I realize you can't do anything about it...but, I'm going to ask you a question...do you have a life insurance policy on him? If you don't, I would suggest you think about it and put the children as the beneficiaries. Not trying to scare you, but it's important that your little ones be protected in case his health takes a turn in the next few years.
I am praying that your family will be restored in a very healthy way. I hope that the trip will set in motion the reality of what he has at home and what he currently has w/the Tart.
Please take care of yourself and try not to over do it. Okay?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.