Deb - thanks for your imput on V Day - For now I just might decide to not decide.
I did go flying yesterday - had a good lesson - it was a nice day with good visibility but it was really bumpy. We did maneuvers; S turns, 360º around a point, slow flight, and some time under the hood. Instructor said I was getting a good feel for handling the plane.
I then went to C's to watch the kids but she did not want to work out but instead wanted to get her nails done - I told her that she did deserve some pampering and to enjoy herself. I told her that when she got back I would take them all out to eat so she would not have to cook and clean up. She then said that she had fixed a pork roast but that she did like the idea of not cooking anything else to go with it but asked me to stay over and she would fix it for lunch today. She said that she also wanted me to watch the kids while she took a nice long bath later. I said sure and she went to the nail salon.
After she got back we went out to eat (TGI Friday's - they have Atkins Items on the menu) and we had a good time. (Today she told me that it was a great meal) When we got back to the house we tried to get the kids down but they had different ideas and by the time they went to bed it was too late for C to take her hot bath. And the little one would not go to sleep unless C was in the bed with her. After awhile C did get to bed and we did some spooning and cuddling but nothing more. She also had to get up with the little one several times during the night.
C woke me up around 8:30 and had coffee ready - I got up and we shared our first cup and we both fix breakfast together. I took my shower first and then watched the kids while she finally took her long hot shower and washed her hair. I got a chance to do some of my hair dressing skills to use as I curled her hair with her new flat iron.
We played with the kids some and before too long it was time for lunch - C fixed some Green Beans and Mac and Cheese to go with the Pork Roast - After dinner we were still sitting at the table after the kids went back to the other room and I could see a look in her face and I lightly mouthed the words ILY. she smiled and looked down but did not respond with anything.
We started watching Finding Nemo after lunch but Kids were to active to watch the whole thing through. Finally got them settled down some and C and I watch "Catch me if you can" A really good movie. Niece was tired and cranky and C took her to the bedroom for an afternoon nap and after gettin her down she went to her bedroom to lay down herself. I watched the nephew for about 45 minutes while they both slept C really needed it.
When neice got up we got them ready to take them home and we stopped by the Burger King and had dinner and let the kids kinda wear themselves out on the indoor play yard. C then took them to her Sisters' home to wait for Sis and BIL to get home and I went back to the apartment.
It was raining and the temp was really low but not quite freezing but when I got home I did call C and let her know I was ok and to thank her for the pork roast Dinner and all and she thanked me profusely for helping her with the kids. As we ended the conversation she said Good nite Darling.
After reading Deb's response to my dilemma to Valintine's day and that my R is not moving forward but standing still and believing that to be the case. But also beliving that it was not too bad of a place to be stuck in because I was getting some great hugs, good kisses and several sleep overs from time to time and even some great ML.
But then a Great positive happened. I was finishing this post when she called and started out with some chit chat that Sis and BIL had landed and were driving home and would be there soon. C would be able to be home soon. We both agreed that while was looking forward to Coffee in the morning without some kids underfoot she was already looking forward to keeping them again and that it is always nice to seem them come and nice to see them go.
Then she hit me with something out of the blue that knocked my socks off. She said "and I love you too. I know that I don't say that enough and I don't know why I don't, But I am working on that". She also said " I REALLY enjoy our hugs" I told her that I want her to be confortable with our R and I did not want to put any pressure on her but that I was there to help with the kids and I was there for her.
That kinda helps me with my dilemma on V -day.
So a great day w/ C while no ML she did say ILY and it was not just an off the cuff ILY but one that came from the heart.
