You sound like you are in a better place. I'm glad you are feeling better today. I'm glad you've buckled up because he's not going to be happy when he finds out about the civil actions. But you know what? He brought it on himself.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.