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whatever sexual energy you have always directed at your spouse?



This one. Since the sexual energy shows up for me well after we've started "getting involved" , I don't experience sexual energy as a drive outside of the act with my H. When I think about sex, it is only in the context of "sex with H."

As an aside, I think one of the problems some LD people may deal with is that they try to get the act over with quickly. So if you're LD and reading this, try making it last longer instead. Those tingly, sexual energy, lustful feelings may need more time to come to the surface.

MPt