So, H lingered when he dropped off boys and asked if I wanted to talk (as I indicated I wanted to a couple of days ago). I said "no," as I really didn't want to stir the pot. He seemed okay with this.
On Friday night he had his "staff party" which means he was out where OW was and probably mingled w her all night. So, Sat. I told him I wanted to talk (I wanted to ask him about her--were they seeing each other outside of work).
In our sitch H told me he would let me know if he & OW were "dating." He has said nothing. But, to me that doesn't mean anything. In his mind b/c he doesn't tell me something is not the same as LYING. I beg to differ--it is secretive and dishonest, all the same.
Okay, so Friday evening I had called H (while at party--I didn't know he had a staff party) to talk about a party S14 was having on Saturday. He was "in a bad place." First, it was his (late)mom's birthday. Second, a close co-worker said another co-worker found my name & profile on a meetup web site.
He asked me about this. He knew I had gone to several (5 to be exact) meetups, but didn't know I had a profile "out there."
So, tonight after kids went to bed he called me. He has only done this once or twice since he moved out! He said he went on-line to check out my profile and nowhere on the web site did it say it was a "singles" group (which is what I said the site said).
He went on to rant about this snoopy co-worker & what a gossiper she was. He was very upset w her, and the fact that she passed on information to this other co-worker who questioned him about whether he was having marital problems.
He said he answered, "I don't feel that my private life is any of your concern."
To be honest, I was surprised this co-worker didn't already know as OW works with them too. At least he & OW are being discrete about their R, otherwise she would definitely know (she is the social queen at work & makes it her business to know what's going on w everyone).
I was also surprised he even cared to check out my profile and ask me about it AND call me in the evening to chat about it!!
Oh, and one last thing...yesterday when H came to the house to get ready for S14's party he came up to my bedroom while I was drying my hair (apparently he had been calling me from downstairs & I didn't hear him) & I WAS NAKED! He popped into my room & when he saw that I wasn't dressed he immediately back away & I grabbed a towel...but he was smugly smiling when I went to talk to him with my towel on.
So, today when he came to drop off boys after the party the first thing he says is "I see you're wearing clothes" with a big-a$$ smile on his face!!! I smiled back & said "well, I do now but I was wearing a bikini 5 minutes ago" (which I was).
INTERESTING INTERACTIONS TODAY!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
