Thx 25 for this post and support. I just got off phone with my Alanon sponsor and his answer was "work on yourself" If you love her you might truly have to let her go. Let her go file and you do the work.
We are separated right now means? I didn't ask. I found it comical. I think she is having EA in my opinion. Yes i expect rings to come off again.
I did stand up for myself tonight. Told her I wasn't leaving my home and my kids. That I wasn't responsible for her happiness, if I was I would turn it on. She said the reason why it goes well for 4 months is she tries for 4 months and then doesn't feel it anymore and stops. She's not one of those women who can stay in marriage for the kids.
None of this got escalated. She was attacking me a little here and there.
I told her I was bummed out that she felt this way again. Her response "Not again, always felt this way. Never changed"
Not to beat a dead horse on hormones. Day 16 is today. This is the day she has asked for a divorce for 20 months now. I kid you not. Everytime she asked for D was on this day. It is scary scary scary.
I'm ok with conversation. I didn't initiate it. Which I expected that after 2 months of me not initiating conversation she got mad and had to spew.
Honestly I think she is having affair.
I know she has been talking with neighbors and friends trying to validate that the kids would be ok through all this.
Anyways I didn't try touching the hot stove but the hot stove wanted to be touched apparently.
Oh yeah. This one made me sort of laugh. I said W don't you think its strange that a comment I made spun you back to where we are at. She said it wasn't the comment. She's felt this way for a long time. Comment had nothing to do with it. Same comment that she said over and over I shouldn't have made.
Anyways. PON is ok. I have local support and my higher power. I'm guessing she is going to start her child games. No rings. Going out not telling me where.
