Now 2+ yrs time to get off this limbo

[newman7977]

Hopeful, agreed that nothing worked in the last 2 yrs. And game changer for sure totally agree with you. I mentioned Ws LL in response to your q, about what I'm doing while we're together to leave that last good impression in the event of separation. And I do realize none of that matters right now because of her infatuation. And maybe when the fog lifts she will remember.

As far as dating, that's just my POV at this moment. Idk how I would feel like when were separated and those feelings might change I guess I will know when that happens. I have no idea how it feels like separated.

It's not like I would date right away, nothing like that but like Leo's sitch that after awhile I might be open to dating. Also I am almost positive that when we separate w will pursue OM, I feel that's the path she will follow. The M might not be officially D in paper but everything else is dead at that point IMO. Yes definitely R can still happen, I think that's when she will realize that grass is not as green as she thinks, but that's her path. Idk if I would take her back. And knowing that, if this relationship has any chance I believe a break up has to happen.

I respect your opinion in dating really do. and i understand there are different views in this aspect. But its reality, it does enter in LBS' mind so I'm curious, step out for a second in your success. If your W would've chose OM, when you ask her to make a choice between you and him and you separated what would your path be? And let's say after a year of separation your W still sees OM and your R with your W is the same --at best (no loving feelings etc)? Would you be open to the idea of dating? I'm just thinking out loud here. But it's a possible scenario in my sitch so just trying to see how I'd approach it.

Newman