Crimson.....Are we broken or just bent?

[Valeska19]

I agree with everything people are saying. I still think you are moving with fear in your heart.

But You know this.

I think you are a man who loves his wife.. but this is the question I wonder....

" Can you love your wife when she is not going to view it as loving as all?"

Because IMHO, that's where I feel you are in your relationship.

I think you have protected her from feeling the consequences of her actions. You have given up your time with your Son. You have shown grace with the way she speaks/treats you over and over again....

.. and I believe you do this because you believe it's loving. The problem that has developed is that... by doing this SO much, you've actually become a stumbling block for her. You have become her enabler.

It's easy to become that... especially if you have a loving kind heart.. where it isn't really a "hard" thing to show compassion in the midst of anger.

So I get it... but now it's time to remove the stumbling block. It's time for YOU to get out of the way and Let God work on your wife....

... and I'm not going lie... it sukks.

It's so hard to allow them to fail. It's so hard to know when you do or say x, your wife will spit venom.

It's so hard to hear you haven't changed... or that you are angry.. when in fact, you couldn't love that person more.

There will be times that you feel that you aren't strong enough and will questions your own intentions.

It will truly be the hardest thing you will ever have to do.

But you NEED to take those steps Crimson... because doing the status quo is not loving your wife well.

It's not giving her the opportunity to dig deep in herself and work through those issues.

And if she doesn't do that - then she can't be the woman God wants her to be.

I'm not saying that she WILL look once she sees the mirror.. but she definitely can't IF you continue to stand in front of it.

Step aside Crimson. Love her. Let her go. And let God take care of your family.