Becoming PatientMan II - Still En-Route, Post-D

[PatientMan]

It'll be tough but you can do it. What's your plan for dealing with your addiction. This is where people rely on hope too much. You need a plan.

My direct plan for her is the cold turkey approach. I am going to limit the amount of contact I have with her to break the dependence/addiction. This means no more hanging around the house, no more hanging out with her, limiting contact with her to kids and family topics that need to be addressed.

What I will focus on are my goals, which I listed a few out that came to mind at that moment when I wrote them in my last thread:

• Move to a larger place for me and the girls.
  
• Finish up my MBA (Dec).
  
• GAL (hopefully facilitated by the above bullet point).
  
• Get promoted.
  
• Get a larger vehicle.
  
• Go on one "excursion" a month with the girls (camping, canoeing, amusement park, etc.).
  
• Continue my one date a week with my D's (one-on-one date that rotates between the 4 of them).
  
• Make D's feel as special and loved as is humanly possible.
  
• Be an example for my girls, and for who they should look for in a mate after they grow up.
  
• Volunteer.
  
• Practice patience daily.
  
• Go to church every week.
  
• Consistently meet my nutritional and exercise goals. (No self sabotaging!)
  
• Start playing basketball again (herniated disc dependent).
  
• Connect with old friends (been trying) or make new ones (not easy/enjoyable for me).
  
• Pray more.
  
• Trust God more.
  
• Help others.
  
• Forgive XW truly and completely.
  
• Be the best version of me.

I have a small, one bedroom apartment which doesn't lend well to me following through with saying what I need to say today and walking away, so I am going to expedite the process of me moving back to the old house that we still own (well, now I own), and take the financial hit of breaking my lease to make it happen. I will be giving my tenants a 30 day notice to vacate the property, so I'll move back in August.

Space-wise, until then I'm just going to suck it up and make it happen.

So my plan is to go as cold-turkey as I can with her and focus on all these other areas of my life. Do you have any other suggestions?

Thanks labug.

-PM