I will look back on your thread, but are you considering MC? You know that of a solution based. I am also not a talker in my M but I recognize that now and that's part of my 180. But it took me to read books and mostly this boards to get it.
You also have some hurt feelings, IMO those need to be communicated otherwise it will turn to resentments...isn't that part of how we ended up here?
Anyway just some thoughts Galbaby.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.