Now 2+ yrs time to get off this limbo

[newman7977]

Hopeful,

"How is she able to contact him? Smartphone? Can you give her a new phone number?mchange her email addresses? Help your wife to stay away from this clown. "

They communicate using FaceTime ...yep that's what the cheaters can use because it doesn't log on the phone log atleast not on my bills. I caught her in a lie and she admitted to it. I know my W like the back of my hand...my guts and her actions, her eyes has not lied she could be saying words but those eyes and mannerisms don't lie. She also did the same as what you're W did, putting different name on that number in the contacts. I can change the phone # but there are so many means of contact. The OM knows her work email and the company won't change that. If they really want to contact each other they will. If they kept it underground good luck to them that is so hard and eventually will surface and that's to my advantage. At least now if there's an EA, it's very minimal. Unlike before the EA was every hour, while we're on family vacation, because its in her language so my kids and I were just thinking she's talking to her female co-worker.

My W's LL is acts of service and words of affirmation. WofA is easy on the phone acts of service is the OM s life drama, his victim mentality that he did everything for his parents that my intel on this guy and how he woo my W. I use WofA with W but not the romantic way, I don't want to seem pursuing her so I listen to what she says about her work and I recognize what she done and I'd support her ideas. Acts of service is easy, been working a lot lately, and she knows that is for the family so she appreciates that from me, I also go to the market for our food for the week. But I balance it, I make sure I'm not doing everything around the house etc...I don't wanna seem like I'm bending backwards for her you know I do things but still respectable by her.

So yes I have a decision to make if the cycle continues. I like the idea of intermediary in the event of D...I have to think about that one. Thanks hopeful following you in other threads. And do please keep me in check.

Newman