I am also living in an in-house seperation. My W likes to make sarcatic comments that frame her as the victim. It is a miserable way to live. Whatever the outcome, I keep thinking "This too shall pass". Unfortunately, the reality that this will take years to work through is finally hitting me.
Personally, I expect it will take 3-5 years to work through this issue. This time frame will be required wether we get divorced and I have to rebuild my life with another woman, or we reconcile and have to work through the damage this process created in our relationship.
5 months - you are just getting started. I just read a book called "How to act right when your spouse acts wrong". I highly recommend it.
