MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

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Feeling very rejected and isolated tonight. My XH and D facechated. He is visiting his sister and her husband. He and a co-worker (originally friend of ours before work) were away in Boston and a work related trip and they rented a car to visit them for the weekend. Hmmm. I always loved visiting them. We would go every thanksgiving with the kids even bringing the dog.

Now as they are facechatting while sitting around the table i'm hurt that I'm not included. To hear their voices and talk as if all together. They went from person to person chatting with D and no one mentioned me. Honestly, expectations says why would they. But my SIL has always said tell your mom we said hi.

I suppose with her brother there she didn't want to bring up the elephant in the room - me. As they were saying goodbye my XH did say to my D your doing a great job and so is your mom.

Just feeling very sad tonight that he leaves and has a girlfriend and just severs everything...even family. I was there for the births of their children and vise versa. We spent almost every chirstmas together. Now they can't even acknowledge me.

I'm sure he has told them his side or view of things and made me out to be some bad guy or monster in the picture. Maybe even over his recent visit. i don't know...quit assuming.

I can't imagine that you can piece that back together. How do couples get back together after ALL the familiy has been through. Not just me and XH.

Just crying and trying to not let it bother me. I'm sure my XH isn't crying over my family not acknowledging him. But then again he is the one who left me for a new life. Blaming him. but they see no reason to communicate...they are very angry at him for leaving and doing what he did to me and our family. We were all very close.

Need to go detatch somewhere. Hearing his voice and comments just melted me.