So here's my dilemma. Everything I've read in DR and on these forums says that I should not say I love you. My wife is a WAW. She left 4 months ago and we have been physically separated the whole time. She has been staying with a family member during this time. In the beginning she was gung ho on getting a D and gave me the whole ILYBINILWY. She made no loving comments and wouldn't even let me touch her. Lately she has warmed up a lot to me. She calls me daily and always says "I love you" before she says goodbye. I always tell her i love her too, bc I do. She has also become more affectionate when I see her in person. Kisses, hugs, cuddling at night in bed when she comes home for a night on the weekend to see the kids. She recently got a full time job in the city she moved to, which is a 2 hour drive from here. She has also mentioned that she is looking for her own place there now that she has a job and doesn't want to live with her uncle anymore. She has a major infatuation with the city she moved to. Always talking about how great it is there and how she feels like it is where she was meant to be. I guess my question is, am I doing the right thing by reciprocating the i love yous and affectionate behavior, or am I enabling "cake eating"? I feel like she is living 2 lives. I really like hearing her say she loves me and the affectionate gestures, but I can't help but be upset that she chooses her "other life" over her life with me and the kids. What do I do?
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
