I know every situation is different but I read so much great advice I think about applying and then I am not sure it works in my situation.
H dropped the B in Feb, I did pull back but we have always lived together and got along really well even though there was no "us". Then we are "back together" but not necessarily because he can't live w/o me, but because we "have a lot of reasons to stay together"
When I read they won't really get it until they lose you, I feel he didn't lose me after he was a WAH but he lost me before that when I was a WAW. So I am assuming walking away again is a bad idea. However, I feel like we have done this so many times before - he wants a D, we spend some time "apart but together", we get along great, he says nothing is different, we are apart again.
In the last month since we "got back together", I am still working on me but I am not mysterious (bad idea after A), he doesn't see my GAL (he is at work so much), I am reaching out to him through his 4LL's.
How do I know if I am doing too much? Should I still be pulled back some? I really don't know. I just know that he has not said he "wants more/wants to create a new M". He is being great, I don't trust it to last.
We don't even see each other much. He is supposed to be off Sun/Mon but we were away and have to go away again this week so he really hasn't been off yet. The days he works he leaves about 10 and gets home between 8-11p depending on the day.
I don't know what I am supposed to be doing...
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
